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Ed and Rosemarie street shopping in Manila

The Problem with 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way’s Big Ed

I remember the scene that hooked me on 90 Day Fiancé a few years ago. My mother kept insisting I watch the show. With my propensity for dating foreign men, she told me the concept over and over again but it wasn’t until I walked into her bedroom and overheard Luis chastising Molly about her brujeria and Molly screaming in bewilderment, was I hooked. Luis probably used Molly for a green card. I’d heard of “green card marriages,” even knew one or two and as a reality tv junkie whose business is in travel, I am even able to take Sharp Entertainment’s portrayal of the “dodgy foreigner” with a grain of salt. Upon hearing that my partner is Italian, many people ask if I’ve seen the show. Believe it or not, it the same thing that has many transfixed on the relationship between Meghan and Harry, curious about mine, Loren and Alexei, Tom and Rachel. Love is hard enough without factoring in oceans away, completely different cultures and lifestyles. So for seasons and spin offs, …

Never Date a Traveler 2.2 – What Are You?

As “others,” we are more often than not asked to define what we are. We also usually have a split second to decide the intentions of our interrogator. Am I black? Am I a New Yorker? Am I an American? Am I Caribbean-American? Naomi happens to love the word exotic. It conjures images of beautiful art. Jennifer and I are wary of the reductionist tone it often takes. Where do we belong?

Studying Abroad While Black: African American Student Experience

One of the most trafficked stories on ‘N A Perfect World is 10 African American Friendly Travel Destinations. I see you guys ;). I am a born and raised New Yorker, currently residing in London. In the current state of the US’s administration, I am not surprised with the influx of activity on this post. I definitely need to update my list, send more tourism dollars to “shithole” countries. With sites like On She Goes (that I’ve contributed to), Travel Noire, Nomadness etc. this was a “thing” way before travel companies started to pay attention. I’ve gotten tons of emails and DMs from WOC — I’ve even been fortunate enough to meet some of you — telling me about your experiences traveling, asking for my advice etc. A question that I’ve gotten a few times that I LOVE is young people of color in the United States considering studying abroad and asking me my take on how the student experience would be for them in X country. In some instances, their parents fear racism. I’ve …